There is a difference between forgiveness and reconciliation.
Forgiveness is one thing, reconciliation is trusting them again.
How do you know if you’ve forgiven someone?
- When you are not seeking revenge.
- When you are being kind to them.
- When you are seeking reconciliation.
Don’t trust people who have wronged you until they have been tested and found worthy.
1. People who have sinned against you should not be trusted again right away.
- Joseph forgave but he didn’t trust his brothers.
2. People who have sinned against you should be tested.
- Joseph tested his brothers to see if they were still going to act the way they did when they tried to kill him and then decided to sale him into slavery instead2. .
3. The person who has done the sinning needs to be the one putting the most effort toward making it right.
- It was the brothers who had to put forth the effort to show they could be trusted not Joseph. Joseph didn’t need to prove himself.
He is testing their honesty.
- 42:20
- Money in bag passed – 43:20ff
- “No man has a good enough memory to make a successful liar.” ~Abraham Lincoln
- On a scale of 1 to 10 how is your honesty?
He tested their jealousy.
- By giving one brother more – 43:34
- by seeing how they will react when that brother is taken from them. 44
Joseph weeps for his brothers who wronged him. 43:30
Salvation and Joseph
The very thing that we resist is many times the thing we need to do to find salvation. 43:1-10
- The brothers dreaded going back to Egypt and they never would have went if they would not have been desperate enough. God lead them to desperation so that they would do what they previously didn’t want to do so that they would be saved from starving to death.
- You may say your not going to do what God wants, but you are more in need spiritually than Joseph’s brothers were physically.
- When you get to desperation you have a whatever it takes mentality.
- “Okay God, whatever you want,” becomes your prayer.
You get what you don’t deserve.
When they finally did what they didn’t want to do they were amazed at what happened.
- They got Joseph back 45:3
- They got provisions for the journey. 45:16ff
- They provision to save their life 45:7
- They got a new home 46:6
When we follow God we will be amazed at what God does on our behalf even though we don’t deserve it.